Let’s design the life you deserve together
Everyone goes through periods of change. Sometimes they are exciting, sometimes traumatic, sometimes unexpected and sometimes engineered, but they always provide a good opportunity to rethink our lives and to make further positive changes.
The last few years have been the most consistently traumatic of my life – admittedly nothing compared to the indescribably suffering thousands of people endure globally every single day – but bad enough for me never to want to repeat them, nor would I wish them on anyone else.
But the real issue is: ‘Can I learn from those experiences and use them to my advantage and to help others?’
I’m not sure the 19th century German philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche got it entirely right when he said: “That which does not kill us makes us stronger.” I would add the word ‘eventually’ because undoubtedly many people certainly don’t feel stronger as they endure adversity, or even for a while afterwards.
But many do bounce back and go from strength to strength. I’ve resarched how people do this and not surprisingly there are some common themes – determination, inspiration, support, a sense of purpose etc.
Before these come into play, having a clear focus or goal is key. And believe me that is easier said than done. Many people – and I was one – have no idea what they want to do with their lives. We’ll look at how best to find your individual goals in later posts.
So what is the purpose of this blog and why should you spend your valuable time reading it, and hopefully, contributing and supporting it?
Well, I want to create a global community of people who help each other to live the lives they want to live, to do the things they want to do, and to work when and where they want to. To create the freedom to live their lives without the restraints that may have hampered them for years.
There are no age limits to this community but I intend to focus on those of you in your 40s, 50s and 60s because you share common commitments and lifestyles that 20 and 30 year olds simply have not developed yet.
Also there are many other excellent lifetsyle designers out there who are catering for that age group because they are their contemporaries. Tim Ferriss and Sean Ogle are excellent examples and their sites are well worth a look to supplement the information you’ll find on this site.
I would not presume to tell you how to engineer your lives – that’s entirely for you to do and to enjoy the process! I’m going to concentrate on the only thing I can really control – me and my life.
I want a more fun-filled life. I want the freedom to take more control over what I do. I want to travel more, to see and experience more countries and cultures. In fact I want to visit about 30 more countries in the next seven years – giving me a total of 100. How I do that will feature in future posts. And I want to make a living doing what I enjoy. My days of being a wage slave are over. Actually I never really was a true wage slave (more on that in another post too).
I have started the process of creating my ideal lifestyle by thinking of all the things I’d like to be doing instead of what I am doing, and I’d like you to spend a few moments doing the same.
I don’t necessarily mean things you’d do if you won the lottery – but there is no harm aiming high or else your lists will be pretty mundane. And don’t rule out things on cost grounds because there could be many ways of achieving your dreams without paying a fortune to do it. This is not a project for the idle rich, it’s for ordinary people without unlimited funds. Everyone can contribute and take part – to whatever extent you feel comfortable with.
I have started by writing my ‘bucket list’ – the name given to a list of things you want to do before you die, and, incidentally, also a great film starring Morgan Freeman and Jack Nicholson. My list is not quite as morbid as that – I want a list of 60 things to do before I’m 60. Then I’ll write another list to cover the next 60 years!
But I want your help in compiling it, which is why I’ve left some spaces for late additions and to accommodate your suggestions. So please let me know what you think I should add and you’ll find you’re well on your way to creating your own list. It’s a fun exercise which you can do anytime. Let your imaginations run riot and copy ideas off others. Remember plagiarism saves time.
I’d love to see your lists – in fact it’s part of the project to publish the list in some way. It does not have to be online like mine but research shows that if you’ve declared your intentions publicly, you’re far more likely to achieve them because you’re being held accountable by someone – in my case I’m being held accountable by you all!
So please join me on my exciting journey – in person if you can – but more likely in spirit or in parallel as you embark on your own journeys. Who knows we might meet up somewhere along the way. We certainly should have enough experience between us to share the highlights and to help each other avoid the low points, or at least lend a hand dealing with them if we do suffer setbacks.
I’d love to hear your comments, thoughts, questions, suggestions on how this project develops – either by leaving a post, contributing a guest post or by email at Barefoot@barefootbohemian.co.uk I’ll try to answer all of them, either directly or on the site. You can also subscribe to our email list in the right hand column to be updated on new content. And if you know someone who might be interested in this blog please spread the word. Let’s get this this thing spreading fast.
Thanks and good luck
The Barefoot Bohemian